Speed Yourself Up	Slow Him Down
Kissing	Because your neck is both nerve-packed and often ignored, few things turn up the heat like the feel of your guy's lips there. Pull your hair aside while kissing and nibble his ear, tilting your neck so it's in his view. If he doesn't take the hint, whisper "Mmm.J'd love for you to kiss my neck." Then moan so he'll know to keep it up.	Avoid tonsil hockey in favor of lips-only smooches and delicate, teasing tongue flicks. Research suggests that swapping spit can ratchet up his arousal because your saliva contains hormones that set him off.
Foreplay	To ensure you'll climax before or at the same time he does, have him start stimulating your clitoris ASAP. Put a few drops of your favorite lube (proven to help you get aroused more easily) on his fingers, and guide them between your legs. Experts report that circular stimulation, starting slow and building speed, is most effective.	When handling his manhood, maintain a soft touch, and keep your strokes closer to the base, where he's less sensitive. Vary your moves: He'll love the shifting sensations so much, he won't notice that you're skipping the steady friction that makes him orgasm.
Oral Sex	Ask him to insert his pointer and middle fingers into your vagina with his palm facing the ceiling then rest his chin in the palm of his hand. In this position, he can move his fingers in a come-hither motion to massage the front wall of your vagina I (G-spot territory!) while teasing your clitoris with his tongue.	To light his fuse without triggering an explosion, kiss and lick his penis, but don't suck (otherwise, it feels too similar to being inside you). Showing his testes a little love will also give him mega pleasure without pushing his go button.
Intercourse	Girl-on-top grants you total control of the speed, angle, and depth, so it's best for speeding up your 0. Instead of moving your hips up and down—which will bring him closer to the brink—slide them back and forth so that your clitoris is rubbing against his abdomen. Don't be shy about pushing down hard or increasing the speed. He'll love the intensity.	Long thrusts are the male orgasm's BFF, so keep them to a minimum. You already know what to do during girl-on-top (see left). But if you want to try missionary, wrap your legs around his waist so he can't pull out very far, or grab his butt with both hands and pull him in close for the same effect.
Right Before You O	Focus on your "trigger fantasy": a red-hot, superexplicit, kinkylicious fantasy you can call up when you're on the brink of orgasm but need an extra push. Start by thinking of movie scenes that have turned you on like crazy, then combine and customize details to concoct one that's even hotter, naughtier, and more specific to your tastes.	If you sense him getting close (his body's tensing up, he's breathing harder, his thrusting is more rhythmic), switch positions or stop altogether, and kiss for a moment. He's really close? Quickly reach down and create a ring around the base of his penis with your forefinger and thumb, squeezing firmly. This can act as an emergency break, buying you more time to get to the edge.

Clitoris· Orgasm· Vagina

Tired of Him Finishing First In Bed?

	Speed Yourself Up	Slow Him Down
Kissing	Because your neck is both nerve-packed and often ignored, few things turn up the heat like the feel of your guy's lips there. Pull your hair aside while kissing and nibble his ear, tilting your neck so it's in his view. If he doesn't take the hint, whisper "Mmm.J'd love for you to kiss my neck." Then moan so he'll know to keep it up.	Avoid tonsil hockey in favor of lips-only smooches and delicate, teasing tongue flicks. Research suggests that swapping spit can ratchet up his arousal because your saliva contains hormones that set him off.
Foreplay	To ensure you'll climax before or at the same time he does, have him start stimulating your clitoris ASAP. Put a few drops of your favorite lube (proven to help you get aroused more easily) on his fingers, and guide them between your legs. Experts report that circular stimulation, starting slow and building speed, is most effective.	When handling his manhood, maintain a soft touch, and keep your strokes closer to the base, where he's less sensitive. Vary your moves: He'll love the shifting sensations so much, he won't notice that you're skipping the steady friction that makes him orgasm.
Oral Sex	Ask him to insert his pointer and middle fingers into your vagina with his palm facing the ceiling then rest his chin in the palm of his hand. In this position, he can move his fingers in a come-hither motion to massage the front wall of your vagina I (G-spot territory!) while teasing your clitoris with his tongue.	To light his fuse without triggering an explosion, kiss and lick his penis, but don't suck (otherwise, it feels too similar to being inside you). Showing his testes a little love will also give him mega pleasure without pushing his go button.
Intercourse	Girl-on-top grants you total control of the speed, angle, and depth, so it's best for speeding up your 0. Instead of moving your hips up and down—which will bring him closer to the brink—slide them back and forth so that your clitoris is rubbing against his abdomen. Don't be shy about pushing down hard or increasing the speed. He'll love the intensity.	Long thrusts are the male orgasm's BFF, so keep them to a minimum. You already know what to do during girl-on-top (see left). But if you want to try missionary, wrap your legs around his waist so he can't pull out very far, or grab his butt with both hands and pull him in close for the same effect.
Right Before You O	Focus on your "trigger fantasy": a red-hot, superexplicit, kinkylicious fantasy you can call up when you're on the brink of orgasm but need an extra push. Start by thinking of movie scenes that have turned you on like crazy, then combine and customize details to concoct one that's even hotter, naughtier, and more specific to your tastes.	If you sense him getting close (his body's tensing up, he's breathing harder, his thrusting is more rhythmic), switch positions or stop altogether, and kiss for a moment. He's really close? Quickly reach down and create a ring around the base of his penis with your forefinger and thumb, squeezing firmly. This can act as an emergency break, buying you more time to get to the edge.